Stuck in a Marriage
November 14th 6pm + November 15th 9am & 11am
Pastor John Fehlen
West Salem Foursquare Church | http://www.wsfc.org
POEM by Christian Treborn:
Some are not there, but have a baby in the carriage
Each relationship will deal with some conflict
If it's heaven sent - hearts heal - you can't stop it
If you stumble, you need to pray for a solution
It is inevitable, to embrace a resolution
Ken & Barbie got married, at the age of nineteen
Had a baby at twenty & said; 'Goodnight Dream'
Now it's a debate, on who sleeps in
This is common, on how a marriage begins
Next it's the 'BIG 3', in this circumstance
ONE: is MONEY, but we can call it finance
"Give to the Lord - He will take care of the rest"
Putting God first, will keep your life blessed
NEXT kids, you guessed it: not Sex but INTIMACY
"Give yourself to your spouse" Don't say 'gimme gimme'
Do you ever wonder how a Man might behave?
Well, he is similar to a microwave
& Women aren't fish - that got caught
Her mind is prepared, like a crock pot
If you need scripture, Take this picture
First Corinthians Seven Three, That makes it clear
In this day & age, we have a lost art of communication
So let's pray, every heart finds a common union
SIDE NOTES:
Six Good Marriage Sneakers:
from When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages by Les & Leslie Parrot
1. BUSINESS: stressed & distracted [life is too fast]
2. IRRITABILITY: cranky & grouchy [nag or grunt]
3. BOREDOM: lifeless & routine [rarely communicate]
4. DRIFT: disconnected & disinterested
5. DEBT: strained & squeezed [focus on cash flow and spending habits]
6. SECRETS: wounds & scars [past comes back to haunt you, bite you]
Four Good Marriage Jolters:
1. ADDICTION
2. INFIDELITY
3. INFERTILITY
4. LOSS
Are You Fit To Be Tied? [Strain]
1. FINANCES (money)
Get Un-Stuck Principle #1 - Give to the Lord
2. INTIMACY (sex)
Get Un-Stuck Principle #2 - Give yourself to your spouse
3. TALKING (communication)
Get Un-Stuck Principle #3 - Give each other time
[those are the BIG 3]
If there is conflict:
Start small, but start right away
people communicate through email and text instead of on phone or in person
on average, a couple talks 8-12 minutes a day (out of 24 hours)
Keep short accounts
don't bring up things from the past that are current situations of conflict
Don't try to fix it
we all have two ears, two shoulders, and one mouth
close your mouth and allow your spouse to use your ears and even your shoulders
men want to fix it right away - women want to talk it out & work on it
SCRIPTURE:
1 Corinthians 7:3
Hebrews 13:4
1 Chronicles 3
2 Corinthians 7:1
Malachi 2
Malachi 3
Proverbs 5:15-21
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Pastor John Fehelen
@ West Salem Foursquare Church
West Salem, Oregon
